I am free to love & be loved

• My intuition is my guide

• Wonderful choices are available to me

• I have a new, lasting warmth in my soul

• I am now in charge of my life

• I can go to that quiet place inside when I 

     need to still my thoughts

• I coax my Inner Child out of hiding into the light

• I am the only expert on what I need

• My emotional life is a unique expression of me

• My judgement is sound as I use my inner wisdom

• I embark on this day with mental clarity

• I’m on a journey to discover my strengths

• Clarity is always within my reach

• I rejoice in my laughter & sense of humor

• I am motivated to pursue my goals

• I will step aside & let Higher Power take over

• I meet life’s challenges optimistically

• Each day I put into practice my new learning

• I am attracted to people available for intimacy

• I cultivate patience & allow solutions to  

    develop at their own pace

• I am destined to experience happiness & joy

• I use my creativity to become the best I can be

• I begin today with an attitude of renewal & hope

• I am in charge of my life, choosing harmony

• I know my needs, wants, tastes & values

• I value what is unique in me


does Not mean

      • to judge others

BUT to allow others to be human

        • to stop caring

BUT that I can’t do it for someone else

        • to enable

BUT to allow learning from natural outcomes

       • to try to change or blame  


BUT to make the most of myself

      • to fix,

BUT to be supportive

      • to be in the middle, arranging outcomes

BUT to allow others to chose their destinies

      • to be protective

BUT to permit another to face reality

      • to deny what’s  true

BUT to accept reality

      • to nag, scold or argue

BUT identify & correct my own shortcomings

     • to adjust everything to my desires

BUT to take each day as it comes &

      cherish myself in it

      • to regret the past,

BUT to grow & live for the future

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   1. You will receive a body.  You may like it or hate it, but it will be your for the

        entire time you’re here.

   2. You will learn lessons. You are enrolled in a full-time, informal school, called

       life.  Each day you’ll have the opportunity to learn something.  You may like

       the lessons, or think them painful, stupid or irrelevant.

   3. There are no mistake, only lessons.  Growth is a process of trial & error, by

       experimentation.  The ‘failed’ experiments are as much a part of the process

       as the ones that ultimately ‘work’.


   4. A lesson is repeated until it’s learned.  It’ll be presented in various forms  

       until then.  When you’ve learned it, you can move on to the next one.


   5. Learning lessons doesn’t end.  All parts of life contain lessons.  As long

       as you’re alive, there’ll always be something you’re required to learn.

   6. There’s no better place than ‘here, now’.  When your ‘there‘ has

       become ‘here’, you’ll simply be given another ‘there‘ that again looks

       better than where you’re at now.  

   7. Others are merely mirrors for you.  You can’t love or hate something about

       another person unless it reflects back to you something you love or  hate

       about yourself.

   8. What you make of your life is up to you. You have all the tools & resources

       you need.  What you do with them is up to you.  The choice is yours.

   9. Your answers are inside of you.  The answers to life’s questions are in  each of

       us.  All you need to do is look, listen & trust.

  10. You will forget all of this when you arrive.

                                                                                       Author  Unknown

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