FRIENDS - What are yours like?
ABOUT THEM
• Is honest, usually tells the truth ______________________________
• Is creative, artistic, intuitive _______________________________
• Is not generally judgmental or insulting _______________________
• Actively seeks inner growth AND it shows! _____________________
• Has strong spiritual interests (may not be your) ________________
• Is usually enthusiastic & appreciative of life ___________________
• Is trustworthy & dependable - keeps their word _________________
• Is not a gossip, can keep confidences _________________________
• Has good boundaries (not walls!) _____________________________
• Good sense of humor & play, fun to be with ____________________
• Intellectually interesting, curious, knowledgeable _______________
• Is sober / abstinent from major addictions _____________________
• Has a generally positive, hopeful outlook & opinions ____________
• Has good self-esteem, takes good care of ______________________
• Not devious, scheming or manipulative ________________________
• Not afraid of expressing opinions AND emotions, appropriately ___
• Is compassionate & understanding ___________________________
• Is an interested & intelligent listener ________________________
• Is a thoughtful & appropriate gift-giver ______________________
• Is generally assertive, not usually aggressive __________________
• Has their own full & interesting life _________________________
• Has good follow-trough capacity (usually shows up) ____________
• Is comfortable receiving compliment, gifts, help ______________
IN RELATION TO ME
• We have many interest in common __________________________
• Is ok with my mistakes, is not critical ________________________
• Is loyal - on my side, backs me up, not jealous / envious _________
• Doesn’t need me to take care of them (not needy) _____________
• Is not usually controlling or tells me what I ‘should’ do _________
• Respects my time & energy (not hanging on) ___________________
• Shares their concerns, woes & needs but does not ‘dump‘ _______
• Capable of emotional support, affirms my self-worth __________
• Doesn’t take their anger out on me (or others) _______________
• Is able to share - not competitive with me ___________________
• Is considerate of where I’m at, even if I don’t need help ________
• Considers me as important in their life as their lover/ spouse ____
• Is available for practical help if I really need it (not rescuing) ___
• Can initiate plans, keep in contact, respond to communications __
• Never takes advantage of me financially ______________________
• Does not try to ‘fix’ me, give unsolicited advice _______________
• Has similar values as mine _________________________________
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