I DON’T HAVE TO:
• be perfect
• be a victim anymore
• be hopeless about most things
• ‘deserve’ / earn good things
• DO most things, unless I choose to
• ever take abuse from anyone
• fix, protect, save any other adult but ME
• force myself, when I’m not ready
• hate or beat myself, in any way!
• help anyone who doesn’t want it
• help anyone I don’t want to help
• hurt myself physically -- ever
• justify myself
• know everything
• live on the edge (materially, socially)
• live in high drama / constant crisis
• live in constant terror
• force myself, when I’m not ready
• push myself beyond my limits / capacity
• suffer - to learn or to get something
• take care of anyone before me
I HAVE A RIGHT TO:
• ALL my needs & to get them met
• ALL my emotions & to express
them, safely
• be a separate person, & to
separate from my damage
• be here, be alive
• be exactly who I am - right now
• be free of addictions
• be outraged at the abuse/ neglect
I’ve experienced
• be physically, emotionally and
spiritually healthy
• be with kind people
• feel anger & rage, & let it out in
safe ways, without judgement
• find my own niche in life (my purpose)
• get verification of my emotions,
perceptions & experience
• have a great relationship with a
Loving Higher Power
• have fun relax, enjoy
• have realistic boundaries & limits
• take care of MY Inner Child, only
• take in healthy love, freely given
• trust my own judgement
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