Adult-Children of alcoholics & other narcissists
RELATIONSHIPS
IN MY relationships, either I or the other person....
... give advice but have difficulty taking it
... have trouble reaching out or asking for support
... give orders; demand & expect too much from the other
... try to get ever (tit for tat)
... tend to be critical & judgmental
... withhold from the other what need or want
... make, & then break promises
... smother, caretake, over-nurture the other
... patronize &/or intimidate the other
... make decisions for the other
... discount the other’s problem-solving ability
--- have difficulty admitting mistakes or saying ‘I’m sorry’
... give indirect, evasive answers to questions
... manipulate (uses the other to get needs met, indirectly
... attack when the other is vulnerable
... present an “I don’t need you” attitude
... threaten, bully, emotionally blackmail
... hold grudges, am bitter, have a self-righteous attitude
... use verbal &/or physical abuse
... always have to win, have to be right
... use aggression, claiming it’s assertion
... show stubborn resistance, stay set in own way
... defend any of the above behaviors & attitudes
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