EMOTIONAL (Es)
Having healthy E. Bs is to truly know:
• Es just ARE: not good or bad, but rather - ranging
from most painful to most joyful
• Es don’t depend on other’s actions, NOW
• good Es come from our own behavior
• our Es do not cause others’ actions
• our Es do not cause others’ emotions
• we’re non-blaming, ie. responsible for ones own Es
• we’re accepting of & self-forgiving for Es we don’t
like (jealousy, greed, shame, indifference, rage...)
• we can have access to a wide range of Es
• we have control over which Es we express to
others (to whom & where)
BOUNDARIES (Bs) - Healthy
COGNITIVE (C)
Having healthy C. boundaries means:
• it’s OK to have some privacy/ secrecy without guilt,
even in intimate relationships
• we can know and own our opinions & beliefs
• we can think & speak for ourself
• we can teach others to treat us with dignity & respect
• we can stand up for our beliefs, even when we’re in
the minority
• that accuracy is more important that agreement, in
our communications
EMOTIONAL RECOVERY Truth
♡ More is possible than we think, if we truly believe
♡ Our eyes can never see as clearly as our hearts
♡ Wisdom is in hearing & believing our own voice
♡ Help doesn’t always appear in the way we expect or demand
♡ What we think we want may be inferior to what we receive
♡ To want nothing is as selfish as to give nothing
♡ Sharing cannot be real unless we keep enough for ourselves
♡ No one can live our pain or our joy
♡ Second-best may really be just second-arrived
♡ Often we may feel we are walking alone
♡ We are never alone if we know who we are
♡ Aloneness is a bounty from which we choose what we want
♡ No matter who walks with us, no one can walk it for us
♡ No one can tell us who we are
♡ Friends can only stand by while we make our discoveries
♡ Giving is never losing, & giving freely is a semi-circle which
completes itself in receiving
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