EMOTIONAL (Es)

Having healthy E. Bs is to truly know:

  • Es just ARE: not good or bad, but rather - ranging

      from most painful to most joyful

  • Es don’t depend on other’s actions, NOW

  • good Es come from our own behavior

  • our Es do not cause others’ actions

  • our Es do not cause others’ emotions

  • we’re non-blaming, ie. responsible for ones own Es

  • we’re accepting of & self-forgiving for Es we don’t 

     like (jealousy, greed, shame, indifference, rage...)

  • we can have access to a wide range of Es

  • we have control over which Es we express to

     others (to whom & where)

COGNITIVE  (C)

Having healthy C. boundaries means: 

   • it’s OK to have some privacy/ secrecy without guilt,

      even in intimate relationships

   • we can know and own our opinions & beliefs

   • we can think & speak for ourself

   • we can teach others to treat us with dignity & respect

   • we can stand up for our beliefs, even when we’re in 

       the minority

   • that accuracy is more important that agreement, in 

      our communications

  EMOTIONAL RECOVERY Truth

♡ More is possible than we think, if we truly believe

♡ Our eyes can never see as clearly as our hearts

♡ Wisdom is in hearing & believing our own voice

♡ Help doesn’t always appear in the way we expect or demand

♡ What we think we want may be inferior to what we receive

♡ To want nothing is as selfish as to give nothing

♡ Sharing cannot be real unless we keep enough for ourselves

♡ No one can live our pain or our joy

♡ Second-best may really be just second-arrived

♡ Often we may feel we are walking alone

♡ We are never alone if we know who we are

♡ Aloneness is a bounty from which we choose what we want

♡ No matter who walks with us, no one can walk it for us

♡ No one can tell us who we are

♡ Friends can only stand by while we make our discoveries

♡ Giving is never losing, & giving freely is a semi-circle which

    completes itself in receiving

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