Class # 3 - BOUNDARIES (B)
I. Early Sources
(B) Invasions, (B) Blurring, Lack of (B)
II. Present Day Results
Emotional, Mental, Behavioral
III. Surviving without real (B)s
Walls (false Bs) vs Need to Merge
IV. Recovering from lack of (B)s
A. Basic Information / definitions
B. Mourning childhood losses
C. Healthy (B)s mean.... on Emotional,
Cognitive & Behavioral levels
CLASS # 1 -- ABANDONMENT : Abuse & Neglect (A / N)
I. In Childhood
In all 4 categories -- Physical, Emotional, Mental, Spiritual
II. In Adulthood
A. Running away from Old Pain (from early life)
B. Running towards More Pain (copying old patterns)
III. Reversing the Damage
CLASS # 2 -- SELF-HATE - Beating up on
oneself (S/H)
I. Early Sources
A. From Outside - family, others
B. From Inside - shame, powerlessness,
humiliation, rage, emulating adults
& ones own natural narcissism
II. In the Present
A. Purpose for S-H - emotional, cognitive
& behavioral
B. Maintaing S-H - in all 3 ways
C. Results of S-H - to us & to others
III. Recovering from S-H
Al-Anon’s 3 A’s :
‘Awareness, Acceptance, Action’
AND the 3 C’s :
‘I didn’t Cause it, I can’t Control it,
I can’t Cure it’
CLASS # 4 - The 3 As of AL ANON
I. In Childhood
Negative Awareness, Acceptance & Action
II. In Adulthood
A. Un-Aware, to survive the daily stress & trauma
B. Semi-Aware - searching for answers to
“What’s wrong with me”
C. Early-Aware : Recover pink-cloud, grateful
but overwhelmed
D. Ongoing Process
Stay awake, do Inventories, grow, enjoy
CLASS # 6 - INNER CHILD
I. In Childhood
A. Neglect & abuse (not nurtured,
helped, protected, taught...)
B. Over-used (be little adult, have to
care to others, no real freedom...)
II. In Adulthood
A. The unwanted ‘monster’
B. The accepted monster
C. Monster into Damaged Child
D. Damaged Child into Healthy Child
CLASS # 5a - PAIN
I. In Childhood
A. Children are very vulnerable
B. When children are not helped
with normal life stressors
II. In Adulthood
A. Old Pain (baggage) -
buried emotions
+ B. New Pain (garbage) -
___ compulsive behaviors
= C. CombinedCourse - Part II Pain - overloading
oneself, become hopeless, suicidal
III. Recovery Pain
A. From Inside
B. From Family
C. From Others
# 5b - COMFORT
I. Negative Discomfort
II. Negative Comfort
III. Positive Comfort
IV. Positive Discomfort
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