A 20 min talk with Shannan Catlin about ACoA issues, including a 2 min. puppet show to illustrate the Bad Witch voice, the Inner Child voice & the Loving Parent voice .
(Coming soon to YouTube)
Interview on “WOMAN OF THE WEEK”
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MONDAY, July 10, 2010
Family wants us to take care of them -
WHILE constantly berating us as failures
MONDAY, July 10, 2010
This is a familiar phrase used in 12-Step Programs, but not exclusive to them. It contains an intrinsic truth and an intrinsic lie. I’ll explain.
1. In our language, the word ‘feelings’ is used in almost every context to mean either ‘thoughts’ or ‘emotions’, but one can rarely tell which is being referred to! This causes confusion in both speaker & listener.
✦ This double usage is a clever ploy in our culture (likely unconscious) to not acknowledge Emotions! We’re taught to live in our...
MONDAY, MARCH 29, 2010
✓ “PEOPLE SHOULD TREAT ME BETTER - but I WON”T LET THEM”
If you don’t know about double binds, go to pg. 6 for this “Head Game”.
ACoAs have a terrible dilemma
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1.on the one hand we desperately want to be loved, acknowledged, seen, heard. We complain bitterly for
years that we have to chase people down, do all the work in relationships, friends don’t come thru for us, we’re too
isolated, hate being lonely, we can’t trust anyone...
You know what kids used to say: ”No one loves me, everyone hates me, I’m going to eat worms & (See pg....
TUESDAY, MARCH 30, 2010
✓ “FEAR IS THE ABSENCE OF LOVE”
Like so many popular ‘spiritual’ saying there’s some truth in it but NOT the whole story, so people can get easily confused & also misuse it.
Generally, this statement means that if we have enough love in our life, we won’t be afraid. Loved by a Higher Power, loved by family, love by pets, love by friends... Yes, these are to be desired & cultivated.
BUT the reality for ACoAs is that we are fear based - no matter how much recovery we may have. (Love & Fear are both Emotions, re. T.E.A.- see pgs...
SUNDAY, MARCH 21, 2010
✓ “WHAT OTHERS THINK OF ME IS NONE OF MY BUSINESS”
This really gets me riled up! It’s not that simple. Many people in the mental health field.....