STAY IN PLACE

   • Wait for the right moment

   • It’s the safe thing to do

   • Hope for a miracle to get out of a mess

   • Keep my options open (indefinitely)

                             BENEFITS

   • Keep the peace

   • Maintain face

   • Avoid criticism

   • Harder to fail, this way

   • Eliminates stress of openly asserting

      my values

                           LIABILITIES

   • Develop ulcers

   • Lose self-esteem

   • Never get a chance to succeed

   • Forced to accept ever-greater looses to   

      maintain current position

                          RISK A CHANGE

   • Exercise more initiative

   • Act on my own best judgement

   • Accept the challenge of change

   • See if the change will provide the desired 

      results

                                BENEFITS

   • Gain the chance to succeed

   • Gain self-esteem from being the agent of 

      power in my own life

   • Become capable of change

                              LIABILITIES

   • I can never fall on one’s face, lest

      everyone cries “Shame”

   • I will have to compromise other goals

   • The change may not bring about the 

       desired outcome or satisfaction.  I may

       discover I was deceiving myself

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