CHARACTERISTICS

MENTAL

1. -Rationalize their motives
   

2. -Pathological liars
   

- Conversations to gain for themselves only, at others’ expense. If trapped  - they keep talking, change the subject, or attack (anger)

- Tremendous need to control other people, conversations & situations - must have first & last word

PSYCHOLOGICAL

- Little if any conscience

- No real values. Reactions are mostly situational

- Lack of ability to see how they come off to others

- Project own faults onto others

- Defensive when confronted with their behavior. It’s never their fault

- People are to be manipulated to get their own needs met

1. -Present a good front to impress & exploit others
   

1. -Sabotage their partner - want them to only be happy thru the N.
   

- Male Ns will break a woman’s spirit to keep her dependent

- Keep partner from having outside friends & interests

EMOTIONAL

- Insensitive to the needs & emotions of others

- No remorse for mistakes or misdeeds

1. -Self-centered. Their needs are paramount
   

2. - Low stress tolerance. Easily gets angry or rageful
   

3. -Can get emotional, even tearful. This is from frustration OR for show, rather than genuine sorrow
   

4. -Hang on to resentments, very slow to forgive
   

5. -Use understand & caring to manipulate
   

6. -Mercurial / unpredictable moods - switch from ‘nice’ to mean, with no provocation
   

7. -Does not share true emotions or ideas
   

- Don’t care about the consequences of their action

1. -Hide their true self - always ‘on’
   

BEHAVIORAL

1. -Use sex to control
   

2. -Need to use threats & intimidation to keep people attached to them
   

3. -Unreliable, undependable- Secret life - hide money, friends, activities
   

4. - Repeatedly fail to keep their promises or obligations
   

5. -Need to create disruption (like annoying people) & chaos for no reason