HEAL & GROW for ACoAs
 
___I don’t show my anger about everything that makes me mad, but when I do - look out! ___I feel angry & betrayed by people whom I‘ve trusted because they’ve often let me down ___I still get angry when I think of the bad things people did to me in the past ___I sometimes lie awake obsessing about things that upset me during the day ___I find it hard to forgive anyone who has done me wrong ___I blurt out things I later regret, when I get riled up ___I’ve been so angry at times that later couldn’t remember what I said or did ___I get angry with myself when I lose control of my emotions ___When I get angry, hurt or frustrated, I comfort myself with food, alcohol or some other addiction ___If I get really upset about something, I tend to feel sick later (headache, upset stomach, weak spell...) ___I get depressed when things don’t work out the way & wanted or hoped ___I’m likely to take frustration so badly that I can’t put it out of my mind ___I fly off the handle easily ___I hate myself after having an argument with someone ___I often have heated arguments with those who are closest to me ___I hate waiting in line, of for others to be ready ___I’ve had trouble with jobs because of my temper ___People really irritate me when they don’t behave the way they should OR when they act like ‘idiots’ ___When anyone has said or done something to upset me, I usually don’t say anything at the time, but later spend a lot of time thinking of cutting remarks I should or could have made ___Some people are afraid of my bad temper ___When someone hurts or frustrates me, I want to get even ___At times I’ve felt angry enough to kill ___I’ve gotten so angry at times that I’ve become physically violent, hitting people, throwing things, destroying property... ___Sometimes I feel so hurt & lonely I want to kill myself ___I’m a very angry person. I know I need help learning to control my emotions, because the way I express them causes problems

ANGER - Unhealthy

Some SYMPTOMS of HIDDEN anger
EMOTIONAL • chronic depression- extended periods of feeling ‘down’ for no surface reason • procrastinate completing self-chosen tasks • excessive irritability over trivia • over-react to perceived slights or unkindness • perpetual lateness • boredom, apathy, loss of interest in things usual enjoyed • over-controlled monotone voice • Inappropriate affect (like - smiling when hurting or when talking about bad things) • overly polite, constantly cheerful • have ‘grin & bear it” attitude (martyr) • sarcastic, flippant, cynical • enjoy / prefer sadistic or ironic humor
PHYSICAL • Chronic stiff or sore neck • Long-term lower back pain • Stomach ulcers; colitis • Frequent sighing • Slowing down of movements • Clenched jaw, especially at hight • Facial tics, spastic foot movement, habitual fist clenching ... • Trouble falling asleep, or staying asleep; frequent nightmares • Sleep more than usual (12 + hrs) & still wake up tired • Get tired too easily & often; get drowsy at inappropriate times
QUIZ: HOW ANGRY ARE YOU?
RESULTS: If you answered • 5 to 9 Qs you have average to slightly high anger & could use some anger management tips • 10 or more Qs you have a serious problem, needing therapy • ANY of the last 4 you have DANGEROUS anger. Need professional help immediately!

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